Meeting a Wave of Anxiety

Written & reviewed by Maya Ellison

Anxiety often arrives faster than thought — a tight chest, a racing pulse, a mind sprinting toward every possible disaster. Fighting it tends to feed it, because the struggle itself becomes more evidence that something is wrong.

Mindfulness offers a different move: not making the anxiety leave, but changing your relationship to it. Feelings, even intense ones, rise and crest and fall if you let them move through instead of bracing against them.

Ways to work with it

Come back to the senses

Name five things you can see, four you can hear, three you can touch. Anxiety lives in the imagined future; the senses only exist now.

Lengthen the exhale

A longer out-breath gently signals safety to the nervous system. Try breathing in for four and out for six, a few times.

Let it be a wave

Remind yourself that no feeling is final. This will crest and pass, as every wave before it has, whether or not you fight it.

Reflections to carry

A sudden rush of anxiety
This feeling is a wave, not a wall. Stop bracing against it, let it rise and fall, and notice that you are still here when it passes.
Spiralling into worst-case scenarios
Your mind is rehearsing a future that has not come. Come back to your hands, your breath, this chair — the only moment you are actually in.

Write your own moment of stillness

When a wave hits, tell Stillwaters what it feels like, and let it offer one calming line to breathe with.

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